I have personally had this struggle and still conquering it day by day.  I use the word religion, but it is simply put for me in the form of “perfectionism”.  The same authority and discipline being raised up in showed me that as a leader, all the responsibility and blame fall on me.  I don’t […]

Being the oldest of a large family, I had to grow up and FAST!  I found myself with no explanation at all for why everything was my fault.  The messes, the confusions, the house flow, it was always my fault!  It was always my responsibility to get something done.  I will admit I had my […]

Let me just begin by saying this is not a “have more faith” speech, but rather, “have less religion” reminder. Reality check?  Whether we want to admit it or not, our lives are plagued by the constant need to in today’s society “catch up” to someone else in THEIR race instead of running OUR own.  […]

The subject of “love” to be honest, seemed like something I thought I understood well.  As I got older, it was when I realized, all I have ever known is WHAT NOT TO DO.  In addition to coming from a family of brokenness, abandonment, abuse, and individuals in desperate need of love, there were also […]

My favorite princess of all time is Cinderella.  The younger me loved the idea of prince charming, but as I got older Cinderella became a friend as I learned to respect her.  I know, by now, I probably sound crazy.  Step out of your “religion” and join me in a fairy-tale journey through your own […]

What more could we possibly say in a time where all we talk about is love, right?  I don’t have all the answers, but I believe we could do less talking and singing about love, but rather start doing something about the choices we make surrounding it.  That is correct, I said CHOICE.  We could […]

I believed for most of my life beauty was determined by others, and what they said about me.  How I looked, What I wore, What I needed to pursue for the future, and the list goes on.  Here is what was a little confusing with that.  Beauty cannot be judged objectively (by opinion), because what […]

Before you go all out and make me out to be a perfect model (thank you, but no thank you, LOL) , or some know-it-all Christian girl, let me give you a real image.  I come from a broken identity where self-hate was prominent, and have the scars to prove it. Literally, all over my […]

 In the memory of my youth, I was always very, uniquely set apart, and corky.  It felt lonely, but as I reflect on my adult life it is pretty similar.  Feeling as though I am in a place where I am mis-understood.  I did feel lonely for a lot of the time throughout my life, […]